Freedom from the Known

July 22, 2011

1102-04

Quote Paper

In Freedom from the Known, J. Krishnamurti states, “The primary cause of disorder in ourselves is the seeking of a reality promised by another.” This quote is mostly meant for someone who was lead onto the wrong path causing disorder, or “to the disturb the order,” in that person (def 1). I can relate to this quote in many ways. One way I relate to this quote is through relations with others, and the second is through the expectations from others. Both involve another person, or party, causing the disorder in myself or anyone who is misguided.

The first time I read the quote I did not quite grasp what it was saying to me until the professor explained it to me. The first thing I thought of was my relationship with my ex-girlfriend. Humans have a natural desire to be wanted or needed by another. This desire of belongingness is usually satisfied by a significant other, and in my case my ex-girlfriend. Before we went out, I had this desire and satisfied it by making her my girlfriend; what comes with relationships is happiness, or at least what most people think comes with all relationships, which is not true for all cases. At this stage is the disorder comes in, when we make someone our significant other we assume ourselves to be happier because we have someone to share our wonderful and not so wonderful experiences with, but in the end being happy that someone is there. This is not always the case because some people jump into relationships, as I did, to become happy. I saw my friends in relationships and they said to me “get a girlfriend, it will all get better.” So I went out and got one but me seeking the happiness, or reality promised, actually caused more disorder in my life. Instead of the relationship satisfying me, it caused me to have more stress. The stress was from the relationship and me having to deal with that person and their problems, on top of the ones I already had. Instead of my friends’ advice working, it...