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Date Submitted: 06/18/2014 10:28 AM
How Do You Behave?
In every situation, you have three choices as to how you should behave; assertive,passive, and aggressive. Although assertive behavior can be one of the healthiest methods to maintain personal relationships with others, it may not always be the best choice. Certain situations, particularly those that are threatening to personal or emotional safety may demand nonassertive or aggressive behavior.
Passive Behavior
"I don't really matter."
* Don't express needs, opinions, or feelings.
* Apologize for things that aren't their fault
* Do not respect their own rights
* Feel they don't have a right to ask for things they want
* Avoid conflict, even at their own discomfort
Let's say you buy a piece of property that does not have a fence. Your neighbor slowly begins taking over control of the land closer and closer to your house. First they plant flowers, then they plant trees, and soon they are chaining their dog up on your property.Instead of saying anything you just watch them take it over, until one day you wake up to find they have placed a fence right up against your house.
So often, a passive person doesn't really feel they have the right to speak up as another person violates more and more of their rights. They value the other person over themselves, and in effect become a doormat.
Aggressive Behavior
"You don't really matter."
* Don't respect needs, opinions, or feelings other than their own.
* Do not apologize for things, even when they are at fault
* Do not respect the rights of others
* Feel others do not have a right to ask for things they want
* Avoid discomfort, even at the risk of conflict
Aggressive people have an inflated sense of entitlement. They may feel that the world owes them, and so they take what they want.
Aggressive persons stand up for their rights, but ignore the rights of others; they may dominate or humiliate other people.
Assertive Behavior
"Take control of your...