Language

Using Language Effectively

Nicole Young

COM/200

June 16, 2014

Lauren Lopez

Using Language Effectively

In society today, it has become much easier for individuals to have multiple and different listening styles and barriers especially when a persons life becomes stressful. I also know from experience just how easy it is to come face to face with these barriers in my everyday life. Some studies have discovered that we often listen more to strangers than the ones we closest to. These studies also show that individuals who are married or in long term relationships are more probable of interrupting one another when talking. I have found that the most frequent listening barriers I have personally encountered are being self-absorbed, listener apprehension, and unchecked emotions.

I feel that one barrier I face or have faced is unchecked emotions. An unchecked emotion is when somebody enters a moving or emotional state and it in turn affects their ability to listen. Over the past few years I have experienced some extremely difficult times with my husband and family. These tribulations have left me extremely sensitive in my ability to want to listen or even talk. When my husband would try to talk to me about the situation I often let my feelings get to me and would not actually pay attention to anything he was saying to help our relationship and the relationship of my family to get better. It took awhile for me to find and learn just how to rise above this barrier. I learned to remove or take my emotions out of the circumstances completely since they were holding me back and not allowing me to move forward.

This one barrier caused me to have other barriers such as being very self-absorbed especially since I was too anxious or afraid to recognize what I needed to do or hear. Because I was so self-regarding or set in my ways with regards to my life I refused to pay attention to what others were trying to telling me. Finally I was able to beat this...