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Chapter 1 / Communication // Self-Talk

2 Self-Perspective Self-Picture

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Exercise: Remessaging

In this exercise, you are rewriting your self-talk, trading in the disempowering messages of the critic for the more

empowering messages of your coach. In this way, you are introducing and slowly integrating a new truth for

yourself. For each type of language covered in this section, you’ll find one example of a negative self-message

that has already been remessaged. After reading over the example, work together as a class or in small groups

to come up with and remessage another typical example of the critic’s language. Then do the third one on your

own.

Language of Inferiority

Language of Self-Esteem

Critic (disempowering self-message)

Coach (empowering remessage)

Reassure: It’s okay that I make mistakes sometimes.

Example: Why can’t I do anything right!?

Reconstruct: I’m going to pay closer attention to

what I’m doing so I don’t make that mistake again.

Reassure:

As a Class:

Reconstruct:

Its o.k. to have an emergency and be late

Reassure:

Why I'm I always late?

Reconstruct:

I'm going to wake up earlier so I'm not late again

Language of Guilt

Language of Forgiveness

Critic (disempowering self-message)

Coach (empowering remessage)

Reassure: I know now how I want to handle things

in the future.

Example: It’s my fault that everything

got messed up.

Reconstruct: I’m going to do everything I can to set

things right now.

Reassure:

As a Class:

Reconstruct:

I will make it up somehow in the future

Reassure:

I blame myself for lack of money

Reconstruct:

I'm going to find a second job so my ends meet.

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Language of Shame

Language of Self-Acceptance

Critic (disempowering self-message)

Coach (empowering remessage)

Example: I hope no one finds out what

I’m...