The Pickup Game

Girl flakes on me, then asks me out. How should I proceed?

I would assume that it is a big deal to her. The first impression you gave her says you aren’t going to have sex with her.

When you see her on Friday, begin escalating right away. That doesn’t mean that you have to begin by moving really fast – just that you have to start right away.

Here’s my magnum opus on the topic of escalation.

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My best post on escalation was in the old forum (on the old site), and I can’t find it. Somehow it didn’t get transferred over when I got a new computer. Sometimes if I explain something one way, someone doesn’t get it, but they might get it when I approach it from a different angle, use different analogies, etc.

One of these days, when I have lots of time, I’m going to start combining posts on the same topic. But when I really get wound up, it takes about an hour just to write one of my really epic epistles. lol

Unless you’re in a place that just isn’t conducive to PDA (a family restaurant, a classroom, church, her parents’ house, around her friends and/or co-workers, etc.), it is *very* common to be kissing passionately in less than an hour.

Here are a few things that I’ve written on escalation and related topics. There’s a fair amount of repetition (spaced repetition is good for learning things), but I think each has some information (or perspective) that you won’t find in the others. Hope they help.

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I know a lot of guys who seem to believe that women don’t want sex – so they have to be almost tricked into having sex via deception and Jedi mind control tricks.

If you believe that women aren’t into recreational debauchery (or committed debauchery, for that matter), you’re just wrong.

Women don’t go to bars and clubs to have great conversations. They go to bars and clubs hoping to have great sex – and like men, they often leave disappointed.

The main exceptions are women who are happily married or in committed relationships...