Com 200 Week 5

Letter of Advice 1

A Letter of Advice to a Newly Engaged Couple

COM120 Interpersonal Communication

Letter of Advice 2

Dear Frank and Lilly,

I am writing this letter with the intention to impart the information that I have learned from interpersonal communications in order to help you gain the same insights and skills that are necessary in order to achieve healthy communication skills with each other. There was a time when I thought that I had good communication skills and it was through practicing interpersonal communication skills that I learned that a healthy and long lasting relationship takes work because communicating is not just talking, it is non verbal as well. In this letter I will talk about the importance of the following five learning outcomes; self-concept and how it is developed and maintained to show how you think of yourself affects your conversation, listening strategies because listening is just as important in any conversation as talking, recognizing the power of words so you can judge what words are good and bad to use in your arguement, understanding non verbal expression because your body language can help set the tone of your words and emotional intelligence.

I think that we should talk about self-concept first. I want to explain what it is and how it affects us and our relationships. If we were to define self-concept one could say, “Self-Concept can be defined as an appraisal of your own attributes and competencies” (Sole, pg.3.1). Self concept is a culmination of how we see ourselves, how we perceive that others see us, what people say about us and what humankind believes we should be. Self concept is often constructed and preserved by how we see ourselves physically, which can cause trouble with

Letter of Advice 3

interpersonal communication in your relationship. If you see yourself in a negative light for long enough, then that is what you will project on the outside...