Dr. Roof Paper “Emotional Infidelity”

Dr. Roof paper “Emotional Infidelity”

Dear Chris,

Thank you for writing your letter to me. I‘m hoping that I will be of some assistance in helping you to solve your problem. I know that it is hard for you to see your girlfriend so close to another guy, you feel that she is cheating on you. That might not necessarily be the case, what it could be is emotional infidelity. What it is is that she seeks emotional support that she does not gain from you. I will try my best to give you answers to help solve your problem. One of the first things we need to explore is your lack of communication and trust in the relationship, that is the root problem and we will tackle that first.

First if all Chris, you might be over analyzing this situation, it may not be as bad as you think. She may have a close friendship with this classmate but it doesn’t mean that she is cheating on you with him. From my sources I have found that “ Some couples don’t even like their partner to have a good time if they are not with them……..Plenty of people prefer to keep their partner on a leash, monitor their every move. But I have always believed that the tighter the leash, the greater the tendency toward infidelity” (Elia/Chen Pg.175-76). From what I have observed in my own relationship and from yours, if you do happen to be extremely jealous and you check up on your partner, it can lead to some serious problems. When I was with my boyfriend, he was extremely close to one of my friends, he told her everything and it was all things he didn’t want to tell me. I became very jealous of their friendship and their closeness just like you. But instead of snooping through his things I talked to him about how I felt that he never talks to me about his problems and he took what I said into consideration and slowly opened up about his problems. I would suggest that asking her not to see her new friend is not the best answer, directly talking to her would be the better option because she would know that...