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African Americans Learning from the Past to Avoid the 14 Biggest PostDivorce Mistakes
1888 PressRelease With the rise in divorce for the African American community has come heartbreak, drama and broken homes as well as a collective need to learn how to navigate through tough breakups. In the spirit of learning from history, Chicago family law practitioner Lester L. Barclay shared the 14 biggest postdivorce mistakes that people can make. Chicago, Ill. At the beginning of the 20th century, the divorce rates amongst African Americans were just a fraction of what they are today. With the rise in divorce for the African American community has come heartbreak, drama and broken homes as well as a collective need to learn how to navigate through tough breakups. "Black History Month is not only a time to reflect on the past but also to look ahead to how the future can be improved," explained Chicago family law practitioner Lester L. Barclay, author of the book The African American Guide to Divorce & Drama: Breaking Up Without Breaking Down. "Unfortunately, divorce is a reality that many African Americans face, but we can learn from the past and avoid making the mistakes that others have made." In the spirit of learning from history, Barclay shared the 14 biggest postdivorce mistakes that people can make: 1. Mismanaging anger or letting the anger become all consuming 2. Viewing the children as "property" rather than accommodating them as human beings with their own needs, thoughts and feelings 3. Badmouthing the ex to mutual friends 4. Being emotionally unprepared for the "identity crisis" that often occurs after a divorce 5. Failing to get enough emotional support from a network of friends and family 6. Excluding from the support network all those who disagree and are able to give a reality check 7. Stewing too long over the failed relationship, not realizing that forgiveness means giving up all hope for a better past...