Bisexuality for Males in the United States

This may qualify as old news. Or even as “duh…” for most of our readership, as for the past few months I’ve made no secret about my distaste for the double standard against bisexual males in the swinging lifestyle, where women are encouraged to be bisexual and men are discouraged from even hinting should that lead to being (as Shakespeare would’ve pronounced it) “banish-ed.”

What I haven’t done, though, is go ahead and talked about my journey on this issue. Mostly because it’s ongoing. There are things I have not done, chiefly having anal sex with another man, but having had a couple of male/male experiences now, I think I can say that I’m a 2 on the Kinsey Scale, and that I enjoy playing with men and women alike.

This qualifies me as officially bisexual, though I don’t have a romantic interest in men, nor interest in kissing them, so I imagine there’ll be some who will argue that I’m still in the bi-curious category.

I’ve long postulated two things. One, that many girls are as turned on by two guys playing; and two, that more guys would be up for experimentation if they knew their girls would get turned on by it.

That theory though, was called into question by some friends last night. He is very curious, and bisexual play is something he wants to experience before he dies. His wife, on the other hand, has seen him kiss another man, and wasn’t impressed or turned on, and is concerned in fact that she will find him less attractive if she sees him play with another man.

[pullquote]You don’t know how you’ll feel about somethings until you actually do it sometimes, and at that point the damage may have already been done.[/pullquote]

The big sexual paradox is strong in this situation. You don’t know how you’ll feel about somethings until you actually do it sometimes, and at that point the damage may have already been done.

So Marilyn and I were asked, as a couple who has experienced this first time experimentation situation, for our advice.

The bisexual urge has...