How to Influence People

How to make friends and be liked by others.

If you want to make friends you should take the matters in your own friends, because no one is going to come to you. Usually u have to make the first step in introducing yourself. U should spend more time around people, be sociable and active, go and talk to people, start a small talk. Who knows maybe it can evolve into something more important like strong relationship. Be a good friend: be reliable, a good listener, be trustworthy, always be there for your friends. But try to be yourself all the time. People should like you the way u are.

Recently I have read a famous book by Dale Carnegie titled How to How to Win Friends and Influence People. I have found this book very fascinating. In it Dale made out some basic rules for dealing with people, making them your friends and making them like you. I’ve written down some of them and sometimes I try to use them in my life.

For example: don’t criticize and complain. Everyone has their own problems and no one really wants to listen to yours in addition. So u should try to say only nice things about people and avoid gloomy topics.

Give honest and sincere appreciation and be genuinely interested in people. Just pick something you can appreciate about the person you are talking with and let them know it. Do they have nice hair? Eyes? Clothes? Jewelry? Make it a point to tell them. It’s very essential that you are saying the truth because it’s very obvious when you are not sincere. Ask about their interests and keep them the centre of the conversation Ask them questions. Be a good listener and encourage them talking about themselves.

Smile. Smile is a simple tool everyone can use. Simple but useful none the less. E.g. person u are speaking to had a rough day and here u are talking and smiling at him/her of course it will make the person maybe not forget the problems but feel better for a while. Also make a point to establish an eye contact.

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