A Helping Nature

Nichola Hanson-Jones 435855.

ABC Award in Counselling Concepts.

A Helping Nature

I often think of what qualities I value most in others and myself and have come to the conclusion that it's honesty and Fidelity. I have always strived to be honest through my life and its something I look for in others, and I believe that if you treat others with honesty and respect then you are more likely to be treated the same way. All though been honest with people isn't always appreciated at first but it does I feel leave an impression on them it helps build up trust between people if they know that you will above all be honest and that in turn gains respect from others.

I can see that been honest is beneficial to any kind of helping relationship in fact Carl Rogers said “if I am real with myself and the client then in turn the client will be real” again reflecting my views on if I treat others in a way I would like to be treated it encourages the same from them all though this isn’t an instant change in people it does as I have found take place when people realise that you are Genuine it some how inspires them to be. My positive attitude is also something I hold dear by choosing to look for the positive in all situations life suddenly seems brighter. I am also able to show empathy to others quite easily putting myself in their shoes so to speak which is perhaps why people say I’m a good listener I am able to see things from their point of view and show understanding.

I can also see that while these qualities can benefit a helping relationship they could also form barriers for instance my strong sense of fidelity may impact on how I treat a client who has been unfaithful to his or her partner, or my need for honesty with friends and family may affect how I act when clients are not honest with me, although I am aware that in a counselling role honesty comes from trust so a client who may not be honest at first may become so when they feel they are in a trusting...