Dale Carnegie Posting

Dale Carnegie Posting 2

PRINCIPLE 6

Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely.

As it is mentioned in principle 2 in Part 1 of the book, John Dewey, said that the desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature; and William James said: " The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated. " And Dale Carnegie pointed out that it is this urge that makes us different from animals. We all consider we are important, very important. And in some sense, we think we are better than others, then we thirst for appreciations. If we stand on other people's viewpoints, they feel the same. So I learn the gold rule of how to make people like me instantly, that is " Always make the other person feel important". If this rule is applied as often as possible no matter in daily life or in professional career, anytime, everywhere, it will surely brings us countless friends and constant happiness, and we maybe almost never get into trouble. We make others feel that they are important not totally for our own benefit, it should be unselfish. Because we must realize other people's importance right from our deepest heart, and let them know. Then probably you will change the life of the people you come across. Though it is not for our personal benefit, it is meaningful. However, what we must remember when we conduct this rule is that the appreciations must be sincere and honest, definitely not insincere flattery.

Here is a vivid illustration in my real life. One of my classmates in this course, T-bag Xie, is also my roommate. When we first met in our dorm, he left me the first impression that he was a shy and taciturn boy. On the day of my birthday, I treated all my roommates to sing in a KTV room. He was going to sing a song, but I could see that he was so nervous to perform with all our presence that he couldn't catch up with the lines and ran tone. Among people's laughter, I felt he was a little hurt. Frankly speaking, I realized that he...